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Too Late

Author: Tadpole Bowden, 02/00

Before January 12th 1997, I never knew what it was to feel completely empty inside. I'm a 24 year old woman, married, with two kids. I have a good job and pretty happy with my life. So what am I complaining about huh? Let me explain.

January 10th 1997, my father had a severe asthma attack. He couldn't get to his inhaler fast enough. He went in to a comma and was rushed to the hospital. He was now on Life Support. As two days passed, the doctors came to me with a question that I could have literally killed them for asking. "Should we take him off Life Support?" Of course my answer was no. That would mean giving up, which I will not do. Not on my father. I stayed by his side day & night waiting for him to wake up. That never happened. My fathers will was found stating if he was in this situation, he would not want to be living by machines.

On January 12th 1997, I watched as the doctors took him off Life Support. I think I stopped breathing that very moment and a part of my soul went with him. How could God take him away from me?

To this day, although I understand, I am still a little angry. The worse thing about all of this is that I waited. I waited to tell my dad I loved him until he was on his death bed. I waited to hug, kiss, and hold my dads hand until it was too late. It was too late to tell him and show him how much I loved him and appreciated him and respected him and admired him. I waited, and waited, and waited for something that would have only taken five minutes to say.

It has taken me three years to forgive myself for this. And I have to admit that I haven't completely forgiven myself. I've prayed that the Lord forgives me for not honoring my father the way that I should have while he were alive. I've prayed that my father knew even though my love went unspoken.

I guess the moral of my story is DON'T WAIT UNTIL IT'S TOO LATE. I made that mistake. It's a terrible feeling to live with. It is almost as terrible as living with out a father. ALMOST.

Please take my story as a lesson. Don't just love your loved ones. Show your love ones that you love them, as well as tell them. They'll only know if you tell him. Don't wait until it's too late like I did.

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Yes, I cried coz I lost my father on Dec 16,2008. It was so unexpected, everything right from his paralysis attack to his death. The reasons remain unknown. I think even I have not done what I could have. The guilt is still in him and I still don't have the guts to share it with anyone until now. I am sharing this with you my friend. My story is so similar to yours. I loved my Daddy but didn't ever tell him how much. The guilt will never ever go I know...

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I really liked it. This same thing happened to a aunt of mine!

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I have four sisters and we are all going thru the same thing this lady went thru. My father passed away almost five years ago and we are still not over his death. I feel the same way because I always wonder if my dad knew we loved him so much. That we cared for him so much and we are still hurting because we did not get a chance to tell him. Now my mom is dying of cancer and we are trying to tell her in our own way that we love her very much and that we are going to miss her and my dad a lot, but that we know in our hearts that they are going to better place. I hope my mom gets it and understands we are all different and share our feelings differently. This time, it's not going to be too late. I won't let it. - AF

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My mother has advanced cancer. In the last year we have called her daily to tell her repeatedly how much she means to my six grown children, their families, and me. We share and reminisce and even laugh sincerely and often. Never has she been so close to God as she has been lately and never have I realized how important it is to tell those we love that we do before time runs out.

Thank you for your story to remind us all and for those of you who still have time, tell your family and friends now and often. Isn't it wonderful God touches our hearts through another's story and gives us a chance to reach out in love before it's too late. Thank you again.

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I honestly must say I've never lost a loved one yet. I think your story was incredibly touching. I'm really sorry. I'm glad I have the opportunity now to tell my family, friends, and loved ones how much they really mean to me. Thank you.

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I really liked it. I lost my brother without saying to him how much I loved him. He had a car accident and he died minutes later. Thanks for giving us support.

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